Top ‘Silly Fights’ That Can ‘Derail’ Your Relationship
Many couples bicker and fight about little things. That’s just something that happens when you spend a good chunk of time with a person. Some of these small disagreements can be as silly as what to have for dinner, what pasta to buy, or where your dirty clothes should go. While it’s okay to have these little moments of bickering, some silly fights can derail your relationship. Best Life, a lifestyle magazine, teamed up with therapists and relationship experts to compile a list of “silly fights” that can derail your relationship.
Some people are a bit weary of letting the world completely in. This is sometimes the case with showing that you’re in a relationship on social media. The magazine kicked off their list with fighting about if you’re hiding your partner on social media. Jeff Guenther, a licensed professional counselor who shares relationship advice on TikTok as @therapyjeff, posted a video about this topic. His advice is to not hide your significant other on your page if you’re active on social media. “Be proud of your new cutie, celebrate the relationship, and make it obvious,” the lifestyle magazine mentioned.
Relatable Silly Fights
This one speaks volumes to some couples. Similar to how you might show off your partner on social media, they emphasize how important it is to introduce your partner to colleagues, friends, and family. “It is incredibly uncomfortable for your partner to stand beside you as you have a conversation with someone [they] do not know,” Courtney Morgan, licensed professional clinical counselor, explained to the outlet.
According to the list, fighting about not watching an episode of a show together is another way to derail your relationship. Sure, it’s easy to continue binging a show on your own, even if you and your partner decide to watch it together. But one of their experts said that while this might seem like a silly fight, it goes deeper than that. It shows that you honor the commitment to doing something together. “You agreed to go on the emotional and psychological journey with your sweetie,” they said. “But now you’re skipping ahead without them.” Since getting invested in a series together can be a bonding experience, they suggest waiting to watch the show together instead of fighting about it.
Other silly fights on the list include keeping score on chores, like how often you do the dishes and take out the trash, fighting about chores in general, and liking other people’s posts on social media, among others.
Check out the complete list of silly fights that can detail your relationship here.
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They can't be friends, in addition to lovers
According to Heysigmund.com, “Studies have shown that the love and passion that comes with the initial boost of marriage wears off after two years, which is why the best relationships are the ones that have genuine friendship at their core.” It makes sense. You can’t just be physically attracted to your partner. You have to actually like them as a person, too, and enjoy their company. You have to be friends, too.
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There's a lack of respect
This is a big one. Bestlifeonline.com notes that, “…if one partner has a blatant disrespect for the other’s life choices, neither partner will ever feel comfortable talking about their day, let alone their feelings or beliefs.” That’s really true. You have to respect the other person and let them know that you care and respect them, or else the relationship could hit some really rocky roads.
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Lack of trust
Trust is a huge thing in a relationship. The more serious a relationship gets, the more trust is important, too. That’s why it can make or break a relationship in those later years. “One of the foundational feelings necessary in a good relationship is a feeling of security,” Verywellmind.com says. “If you lack emotional support or find your partner unreliable, you might lose trust.”
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You rushed into a relationship
We’ve all been there. Everything was so great at first, that you went from a first date to, “Here’s my mom and dad.” Maybe you rushed into a relationship as a rebound, or maybe it was filling a void in your life. Either way, going into a relationship too fast is often a reason people break it off.
A major life event pushed the relationship to the edge
I’ve seen this happen before. Sometimes, it’s life that causes friction in the relationship, not the relationship at all. If someone is going through a really hard time or dealing with a shocking loss, sometimes, they can decide to just step away from everything, including their relationship. It can be anything from a big move to a death. “A big and unexpected life event, like the death of a parent or a sudden job layoff, can shake a relationship to its core,” states Bestlifeonline.com. They add, “And, oftentimes, these life-changing moments will result in other major changes that many relationships struggle to survive.”
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Communication problems
You totally have to be able to communicate with your partner. They can’t read your mind. The people who don’t communicate well are often those who find themselves having trouble in relationships. “Numerous studies have identified communication (or a lack thereof) as one of the top reasons for couples seek therapy, as well as one of the top reasons for break-ups and divorces,” Delraybeachpsychiatrist.com says.
Your partner isn't grateful
Even if you’re been in a relationship for a long time, a simple “thank you so much” means a lot. Always make sure to let your partner know how much you appreciate the little, and big, things. It goes a long way. Not being grateful could even lead to a breakup.
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Financial woes
Arguing about money is really common in relationships. It’s also a big reason why some couples can’t make it work. Maybe your partner loves to spend money on luxuries, and you’re a penny-pinching type. That’s an issue. “Differences over money is one of the top reasons for marital dissolution. But a couple also doesn’t need to be married to have money challenges,” Delraybeachpsychiatrist.com says.
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